by "take responsibility," they mean "shut up and go away." It's not a question of artistry at all, it's all about not having their bubble broken or even pressed a little by other people's problems. They don't want to acknowledge, in any way possible, that anything they might possibly do might ever be taken for problematic. They want to get praise for dealing with "tough issues" (or, alternatively, get off in peace) without remembering WHY those issues are tough (or being forced to confront the fact their fetish is screwed up).